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		<title>Stepping Back&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Jan 2009 00:55:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Stepping back or taking a step backwards, can seem to be pretty negative, but sometimes its absolutely the right thing to do&#8230;. If  you&#8217;re feeling overwhelmed and trying to juggle too many balls, stepping back gives you the opportunity to take stock, re-appraise your priorities, get some focus and move forward in a more positive and [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=jabeto.wordpress.com&amp;blog=922223&amp;post=8&amp;subd=jabeto&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color:#0000ff;"><strong>Stepping back</strong> or <em><strong>taking a step backwards</strong></em>, can seem to be pretty negative, but sometimes its absolutely the right thing to do&#8230;.</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">If  you&#8217;re feeling overwhelmed and trying to juggle too many balls, stepping back gives you the opportunity to take stock, re-appraise your priorities, get some focus and move forward in a more positive and effective way.</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">I spent more years than I wish to count trying to live up to my reputation of being <strong>Superwoman.</strong> I was juggling too many balls, but  I never had hold of any of them, for long enough to do anything positive with them&#8230; I spent most of my time just trying to keep them all in the air, making sure I didn&#8217;t drop any, or worse.. drop them all..!!</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">Looking back,  it was madness to put myself under so much pressure, or to allow others to dump so much on me, but <span style="color:#0000ff;">hindsight as they say is a wonderful thing.</span></span><span style="color:#0000ff;"> We often demand far more of ourselves, than we would ever ask ,or expect, anyone else to cope with.</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;"><strong>Do You Need To Step Back..???</strong> Are you running around looking after everyone else, chasing your tail trying to hold everything together and not making time for yourself&#8230; ??? You will be hard pushed to do anything effectively if you are, in fact you&#8217;re more likely to end up, working yourself into the ground, or getting depressed&#8230; So&#8230;  </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;"><strong>STOP&#8230; Right Now</strong>&#8230;. Sit back&#8230; Take a deep breath&#8230; Close your eyes&#8230; Relax your shoulders&#8230; Take another deep breath&#8230; and think about how and where you are spending your time&#8230; What do you spend your days doing..?? Are you happy&#8230;?? Do you get any pleasure from your days&#8230;? Are there things you would like to change&#8230;?? </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">Recognising the need for change is the first step&#8230;. Doing something about it, is the next and the most effective way, will be to step back and look <em>from the outside</em>&#8230;. I will pass on a great way to do this in my next blog post&#8230;  </span><span style="color:#0000ff;">until then..</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">Blessings</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#0000ff;">Jaye  </span></p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Mar 2007 03:12:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Okay.. lets face it, officially I&#8217;m no expert&#8230; but in reality, I am, as I&#8217;ve had first hand experience, of surviving hell and the dark pit of depression&#8230;!!  My sons and I had every kind of s**t thrown at us until we were so weighed down with it, we could barely function&#8230; but we came out [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=jabeto.wordpress.com&amp;blog=922223&amp;post=1&amp;subd=jabeto&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color:#000080;">Okay.. lets face it, officially I&#8217;m no expert&#8230; but in reality, <strong>I am,</strong> as I&#8217;ve had first hand experience, of surviving hell and the dark pit of depression&#8230;!!  My sons and I had every kind of s**t thrown at us until we were so weighed down with it, we could barely function&#8230; but we came out the other side and now we want to help others in similar situations&#8230;</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#000080;">I&#8217;m incredibly proud of my boys, for how they have coped and come through all the challenges and trauma they&#8217;ve had to endure. Along the way we discovered some great tools and coping mechanisms, we also developed a few of our own, many of which we have passed on to others.</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#000080;">Through the course of this blog we will pass on tips and tricks that worked for us&#8230; point you towards the experts we found&#8230; </span><span style="color:#000080;">Red flag things to watch out for and share some of our experiences&#8230; some funny&#8230; some embarrassing and some sad&#8230; but all real and part of what has made us who we are today.</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#000080;">I look forward to sharing our journey with you</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#000080;">Blessings</span></p>
<p><span style="color:#000080;">Jaye</span></p>
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